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Post by Yoshimitsu on Nov 22, 2010 9:52:07 GMT -5
Don't get into relationships then! I'm perfectly happy when I'm single!
Except for the crippling fear that I'll die old and alone with a million cats surrounding me and being pessimistic as sin. That's a kicker.
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Post by Bub@ on Nov 22, 2010 10:35:02 GMT -5
"Love is being able to give someone the opportunity to hurt you the most... and trust that they won't."
People who are not aware of this are the ones who end up getting hurt the most. So if you're not ready for this, then, well, don't date. That's what I keep telling everyone.
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Post by Loogs on Nov 22, 2010 16:16:26 GMT -5
No, I am perfectly aware of it. I am choosing not to do it because it's a waste of time and honestly I'd rather be me and myself alone and not me the girlfriend/wife of ________. That's an incredibly overidealistic statement by the way.
Being totally cynical is... actually kind of okay, it's not as bad as you'd think. Also having a bajillion cats would bother me, I don't like cats that much ewww. D:
Lots of great people never married. Worked just fine for Warhol D:
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Post by ch00beh on Nov 22, 2010 16:45:42 GMT -5
Like I said, SV found her boy after I told her to be cynical in every possible way regarding love. You are on the right track!
it is how things works
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Post by Loogs on Nov 22, 2010 17:17:58 GMT -5
Like I said, SV found her boy after I told her to be cynical in every possible way regarding love. You are on the right track! it is how things works except if I ever find him I'll tell him to piss off because I've heard just about every line why can't I be awesome and single by choice forever. that makes me feel badass D:<
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Post by Bub@ on Nov 22, 2010 17:45:57 GMT -5
I tried convincing myself that 2 months ago. It didn't work.
I would love to be single and awesome. Sadly, I'm a person who really needs company. Which sucks, 'cause IMO having a couple is something very, very irrational. It really makes no sense at all, and there are more cons than there are pros.
So then, I'm only awesome, and I try not to be single. =D
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Post by Loogs on Nov 22, 2010 17:54:54 GMT -5
It made better sense once I started becoming aware of my brewing existentialism :/ being single is way better. the time I spent not wanting a boyfriend was pretty fucking awesome, I mean, I don't have to deal with some stupid fucker being jealous and I can live life on my own terms
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Post by Bub@ on Nov 22, 2010 17:57:52 GMT -5
Very true.
Except the jealous thing. Fuck the jealous types, they're very annoying. Wouldn't date a jealous one.
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Post by Prime on Nov 26, 2010 21:28:10 GMT -5
I'd like to point out that you two are currently amidst the pratice of being selfish 'fuck you i want it my way' types. Sorry, but you can't eliminate traits that irritate you and wait for the perfect man/woman. It won't happen, and you have to be willing to compromise. You're acting like children.
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Post by Loogs on Nov 26, 2010 23:20:11 GMT -5
if not wanting to date an unappreciative dick is acting like children, them imma act like children all I want >:U ok actually there's something about your statemt that rubs me the wrong way. no wait, I know what it is. it's how you're assuming that I'm being waaaaaay too picky and prissy about what people I want to date. that's not it at all, I mean, I was being pickier than I used to be for a reason. I wanted to make sure that the guy I was dating would be compatible with me, and if he had a couple flaws then ok. sometimes though, some flaws just make someone incompatible with me (for example I cannot for the life of me stand any guy who even slightly acts like he's better than me COUGHHACKWHEEZE GUYSNAMEDSTEPHENCOUGHCOUGH.) but all that doesn't matter because I just don't want to date anyone anymore.
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Post by Yoshimitsu on Nov 27, 2010 6:55:00 GMT -5
I think he's criticising the attitude you've been taking over the past page, page and a half.
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Post by Loogs on Nov 27, 2010 8:28:23 GMT -5
okay.
calling me children might make you feel like the bigger man but it's not gonna get me to date again. I'm not dating again because I am tired of all the drama and it's not worth dealing with, not because I can't find some special perfect superguy.
seriously, I find that people who call people immature are usually acting like children themselves.
uh uh. we aren't doing this again. we're done, that's it, end thread. there's nothing left to discuss, I'm sorry I even bothered to bring up my personal life. I was doing great when I just never talked about it.
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Post by ch00beh on Nov 27, 2010 8:38:05 GMT -5
but i like acting like a child
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Post by Loogs on Nov 27, 2010 8:40:02 GMT -5
children get free toys with their food at fast food restaurants D:
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Post by Prime on Nov 27, 2010 10:05:40 GMT -5
Another one of your problems is your intense addiction to conflict... You were so eager to shoot me down, prove me wrong, MAKE me wrong, that you abandoned all semblance of correct grammar. Just spew at me how wrong I am and how I should change because pointing out any one of your non-existent flaws is in itself an immaturity on my part.
You're taking a childish and impractical attitude, I'm point that out. It's not going to help you. If you want a happy, healthy relationship, you need to introduce changes to yourself. The same way I've been trying to introduce changes to myself so as not to severely nettle others on the boards. Hell, other people in general.
As for your bigger man comment, its highly insulting that you'd assume I get a thrill from hurting people. I don't feel like a 'bigger man' pointing out your acting childish, I'm pointing out your acting childish because you foolishly posted your problems to a help and advice board. You don't come here to assume the whole world is wrong and have people re-enforce how awesome you are and how much everyone else sucks compared to you, you come to these boards so people can objectively point out flaws that you need to work on.
I honestly hope your joking about the 'not dating anymore' comment. Thats just running away from a problem you can't solve, which really is what children do.
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Post by Loogs on Nov 27, 2010 10:48:58 GMT -5
Another one of your problems is your intense addiction to conflict... You were so eager to shoot me down, prove me wrong, MAKE me wrong, that you abandoned all semblance of correct grammar. dude I'm on an iPod. keyboard is tiny as shit and auto spellcheck can't catch everything. what was that about correct grammar again? also I never said you should change, I said you are making wrong assumptions about me. I really kind of don't. well you sure did a lousy job not nettling me! There's that grammar thing again. Okay number one: I call bullshit. Almost everyone gets at least a tiny thrill out of knowing that they sure told someone what's what, unless you're some saintly Mother Teresa and you sure as hell ain't no Mother Teresa. (I only know maybe one person who wouldn't get this thrill and even then I'm not sure.) Number two: honestly not wanting to date right now isn't childish at all. Maybe the hyperbole with which I presented that idea was childish, but I hope you spotted that. Number three I know not to ask for asspats jeez I've been on dA's complaints forum, and they know a thing or two about cutting someone down to size. Sometimes out of pure malice. They make you look like the schoolyard bully who's still puny himself. So yes, I still think you just wanted to feel like the bigger man, just like you think I just wanted to get asspats. Actually now I've learned that the best way to get advice is to just ask privately. So uh, thanks for that? Okay you got me, I'm maybe half serious about that. But if I was being serious, how would that be childish? It's not like me dating someone is absolutely necessary (ever heard of asexual people? are they running away like children from this big dating "problem"?) Maybe I'm solving this problem by just not dealing with it in the first place. Like I said, the drama is messy and ultimately in my opinion a con that's outweighing the pros. Therefore, I am done and I don't want to deal with it. tl;dr: I CAN ABSTAIN FROM DATING ALL I WANT AND NOT YOU OR YOUR BIG SHOT ARGUMENTS CAN STOP ME, PRIME.that is a joke by the way! more of an inside joke between me and choobs, but a joke! not meant to be taken seriously!Now that I've said what I need to say, I'm done. This argument is over. We are not going to argue about whether or not I want to fucking date again (as if me dating someone is so necessary.) I am not doing this again. Any further comments on this matter will lead to a Terrianjacking of ch00bsian proportions. Someone for the love of god lock this.
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Post by Loogs on Nov 27, 2010 11:09:15 GMT -5
in lieu of locking I will also accept a hilarious thread hijack.
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Post by ch00beh on Nov 27, 2010 11:12:04 GMT -5
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Post by Loogs on Nov 27, 2010 11:18:23 GMT -5
oh man that's hilarious because I just did that yesterday.
man hot dogs are delicious. Especially with mustard and ketchup and chili and cheese and onions. No coleslaw though, coleslaw is so nasty. ew cabbage D:
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Post by Beelzebibble on Nov 27, 2010 13:47:33 GMT -5
oh man that's hilarious because I just did that yesterday. Did what yesterday?
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Post by Loogs on Nov 27, 2010 14:17:48 GMT -5
I did that. To your mom.
No wait that's weird now because I know your mom on facebook she seems like a nice lady.
Ninety's mom then.
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Post by Beelzebibble on Nov 27, 2010 14:22:27 GMT -5
The battle was won as soon as it began. Your mom jokes cannot save you now!
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Post by ch00beh on Nov 27, 2010 14:33:03 GMT -5
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Post by Loogs on Nov 27, 2010 14:51:09 GMT -5
that is unintentionally creepy because it looks like his head is spurting out blood. I didn't know this was /b/ quick someone start a rate me thread
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Post by Bub@ on Nov 27, 2010 15:45:58 GMT -5
As far as I'm aware, no one is convincing you to continue dating again. In fact, I believe (at the risk of sounding like a total dick), that no one actually cares if you continue dating or not. At least I don't.
I do, however, care to support you in whatever choice you make, and will continue helping you with whichever path you take.
That being said, it does sound like you're only doing it to escape this problem. I won't blame you, and I won't judge you. If you want to do that it's fine, I just wanted to point that out. I know what you're going through, so I can fully understand why you would choose not to date ever again.
BUT, if you do succeed, please, please tell me how you did it. I've tried the "I don't want to date again" thing before, multiple times, and I just can't seem to succeed. As much as I want to stop this, I'm a person that needs relationships. I feel too alone, and I end up falling for someone over and over again. It's become somewhat of a phase.
I think the term for what you want to be is "aromantic", by the way, not "asexual" (unless you are planning to fully forfeit sex as well). But it's not something that you actually get to choose, I think you're born that way. And even if you do opt out of dating, you will still feel attraction to someone else. Unless you're Sheldon Cooper.
/ignore this post, I like discussing and stuff
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Post by Loogs on Nov 27, 2010 16:02:51 GMT -5
No, that's ok, I don't want anyone to care. There's a reason that I have my relationship status on Facebook hidden. I had it hidden when I was seeing Dan and I had it hidden when I was single. People make such a huge deal about it and it sucks sometimes D:
also I didn't say I was asexual, I was just using it as an example. I am most certainly not asexual.
It's easy to abstain from dating, at least for me. I think ever since I went out with ginger Steven, met a string of very shitty people, lived on my own for two or three months and took another step up the maturity ladder, I became more emotionally distant. And apparently according to a couple guys I'm also really uncomfortable with intimate physical contact (which is strangely enough, true.)
but uh, tits or gtfo
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