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Post by Tout-Perd on Nov 16, 2010 11:10:18 GMT -5
Well, guys DO tend to have a weakness for exes they've had a sexual thing with. It's a hormonal matter, really. Every time that somebody has sex, their body hormonally "links" them to that individual (which is one of the reasons promiscuous sex is inadvisable: it does some pretty odd stuff to one's brain. Not saying it goes all reefer madness (some minor thing causing utter psychosis), but it does lead to a bit of a general trend towards being unable to really stay committed in a relationship.)
So, even if the guy has no real EMOTIONAL link with the girl, the fact that they've been doin' it means that his body and brain (not mind) are tricking him into feeling that there IS some connection there.
Give him one more chance, tell him "I know people can make mistakes. Your bullshit is really hurtful, but everybody deserves a second chance. If you really do care about me, get rid of her. It might seem unfair to make you choose, but that's how relationships work in real life." and then go into "Mad Revenge Bitch Mode" if he slips up at all again.
And when you do, don't take it out on the girl. Tear him a new one. Either you'll guilt him into getting rid of her, or you don't really want him as badly as you think in the first place.
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Post by ch00beh on Nov 16, 2010 14:20:24 GMT -5
New nickname acquired:
TACO BITCH
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Post by Loogs on Nov 16, 2010 16:04:23 GMT -5
okay. look you guys, I don't know if I made this clear or not, but this bitch lives with him. she can't pay her own bills so dan is trying to be a nice guy and paying her rent and all. he says she is making his life miserable. I think he only slept with her because she'd eat his head if he didn't.
fhggdhfhf. I fully intend on taking this out on the girl because it is almost entirely her fault this mess is even happening. and I thought alyssa was bad ._.
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Post by Ninety on Nov 16, 2010 19:28:17 GMT -5
Yeah, you didn't really make it clear that she lives with him. You just said she's freeloading off him which could've meant he's paying her rent while she lives somewhere else. Tell him to grow a pair and SEVER THE TIES.
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Post by {WW}BetaBloodWolf7 on Nov 16, 2010 19:59:01 GMT -5
I think he only slept with her because she'd eat his head if he didn't. Wait, so he slept with her to shut her up? Having sex with someone you're not happy with, especially if you're just doing it cause they're being pissy, or just to shut them up, isn't right. This guy really isn't inspiring confidence in me.
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Post by ch00beh on Nov 16, 2010 20:17:12 GMT -5
then you have clearly never faced a sassy, overweight latina
sassy, underweight latinas are cray cray enough, but that can at least be charming once a year. add in the overweight to make them bitter hags and hooooo boy
and toss in the bronx and she probably has a knife.
bam, psych profile.
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Post by The Evil Biscuit on Nov 16, 2010 20:20:08 GMT -5
Yeah, you didn't really make it clear that she lives with him. You just said she's freeloading off him which could've meant he's paying her rent while she lives somewhere else. Tell him to grow a pair and SEVER THE TIES.Damn, he beat me to it. I'm with 90. Send this chump back to Charityville and go find a guy with some stones under his belt.
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Post by SV on Nov 16, 2010 21:27:58 GMT -5
Yeah, you most definitely don't want to get involved with a guy who is still living with his knife-wielding taco-bitch crazy ex. I'm not even sure how that works.
Tell him you're not getting involved in that mess as long as KWTBCX is still in the picture, as this is probably the safest thing to do. That's a really sucky situation though. Goddamn.
Why is he still living with her? I don't understand!
Maybe you should just swear off dating for a while. ._.
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Post by Loogs on Nov 16, 2010 21:41:29 GMT -5
oh my god choobs you have no idea. first she says she totally approves of him moving on. next thing you know she's pounding on his bedroom door demanding to talk to him during our precious make-out time >:C also I am pretty sure she's hit him before
I mean, they were together for like two years so I can see how he can still care about her even if he doesn't want her back. and it's been eight months now so i'm not that much of a rebound.
shit, I'm ready to swear off dating forever, even nice guys are complete douchebags so why bother jeez.
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Post by Bub@ on Nov 16, 2010 23:00:32 GMT -5
Personally, I could never be with a woman who lived with his ex-girlfriend. Especially when it's obvious she still feels something for him / is completely psychotic. And that they were also friends with benefits or whatever him having sex with her means.
Yeah, that's not much of a help, but I also agree with everyone agreeing that you should just talk to him about it. There really doesn't seem to be another option to that anyway. He should just do the right thing and get rid of her, really. I mean, what the fuck.
STEPH YOU DATE GUYS VERY OFTEN THAT'S WHY SO MUCH SHIT HAPPENS. It's like you don't even pick them (even though this time it *might* have been an exception) ._.
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Post by Loogs on Nov 16, 2010 23:10:56 GMT -5
personal life what personal life move right along
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Post by Bub@ on Nov 16, 2010 23:18:16 GMT -5
I'm sorry if I misunderstood, it's just my memory of "I just dated a very shitty guy. Guys sucks giant donkey balls / are the scum of the earth" posts on FB is higher than that...
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Post by Kuroboom on Nov 16, 2010 23:22:03 GMT -5
Not to be the pessimist here, but is it possible he's secretly the manipulative one?
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Post by Loogs on Nov 16, 2010 23:36:01 GMT -5
Not to be the pessimist here, but is it possible he's secretly the manipulative one? Everyone who has known him way longer than me says he really doesn't have it in him. I usually trust Dash's judgment, and I can kind of see that too. He honestly is nothing like most guys, he's way too soft D: ninety are you Jewish. you look Jewish.
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Post by Beelzebibble on Nov 17, 2010 0:34:46 GMT -5
Ruh-roh.
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Post by Loogs on Nov 17, 2010 0:46:14 GMT -5
I only ask because it would explain a lot D:
you guys ninety is hot there is no denying this
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Post by Ninety on Nov 17, 2010 1:13:27 GMT -5
I am not a Jew. I don't think I've ever even met someone who is Jewish. They're a rare breed down here.
I live a few blocks away from Hillel house though. I'll tell them you said hello.
EDIT: Oh wait, I lied; I have met a Jew. One of the substitute teachers at our high school was Jewish. He has a sleek red 60s Mustang. Pretty rad.
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Post by ch00beh on Nov 17, 2010 3:12:00 GMT -5
All of my friends are Jewish. All of them.
(that's a lie)
Also you've had more faux-relationships than I've had crushes. Woooooooooo
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Post by SV on Nov 17, 2010 3:36:36 GMT -5
I only ask because it would explain a lot D: you guys ninety is hot there is no denying this
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Post by ch00beh on Nov 17, 2010 4:19:22 GMT -5
New ship acquired:
POHATU/NINETY
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Post by Ninety on Nov 17, 2010 13:27:57 GMT -5
Poninetu.
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Post by The Evil Biscuit on Nov 17, 2010 13:28:56 GMT -5
One of the substitute teachers at our high school was Jewish. He has a sleek red 60s Mustang. Pretty rad. Which of our subs had the 'stang?
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Post by Ninety on Nov 17, 2010 13:55:28 GMT -5
Mr. Berger.
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Post by Kuroboom on Nov 17, 2010 16:41:48 GMT -5
AMBARGAR!
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Post by The Evil Biscuit on Nov 17, 2010 20:48:19 GMT -5
He was a Jew?! I never knew.
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Post by Ninety on Nov 17, 2010 23:01:22 GMT -5
He wore a necklace with a Star of David pendant.
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